I really don't like blocking people on social media, specifically Facebook.
Twitter, no big deal. It isn't as commonly used by most and even fewer actually like tweets as they do on Facebook.
Instagram, I just post pictures of interesting things that I see or places that I'm at.
With their algorithms, I'm not even sure more than a couple of people see things I post as it seems like I only see the posts of about 12 to 15 others.
So back to Facebook.
The latest person that was on the end of a block received it on Tuesday.
I have no clue whether they noticed or not.
I saw the individual at a race today, but it was as they came across the finish line - and they kind of stayed away.
Therefore, I'm suspecting they did. Who really knows, though?
Here's the point, however: Other than a comment on a Facebook post in a Houston area running-related Facebook group, they never, ever initiate any communication.
Unless you consider that they've on four occasions (five, if you count a few years ago) since last October that they come up late in a race and ask for a picture.
The first two, one in October and another in November, I didn't catch on.
And even then, I have no idea what message they were really trying to send.
I have some people that want a picture with me, because I announce races and make people feel special by the way I announce their name when they finish a race.
Once is OK.
More than that, then you begin to wonder the reason why.
I don't mind doing the bulk of the work, but even if you desire a simple friendship: communication has to start freely from both directions.
What's so wrong with a, "Hey, how are you today?" It doesn't mean that you want to get married. Sheesh. It is just being friendly.
We all need really good friends in life. Life is way too short.
It is a long story, all in all, and, honestly, I'm just tired, exhausted of it.
It was just time to move on.
Again, I hated to do it, but I have my mental health and sanity to protect.
I've already positioned to the individual in writing - after attending a birthday party of hers - that I was made to feel that I didn't measure up to them with many things that they shared with me that evening at her house.
When I stated that, there was no compassion from her to say, "I'm sorry that I made you feel that way. I really enjoy communicating with you. How can I address your concerns?"
So what it did was further expanded that feeling of inferiority to them.
I'm perfectly comfortable with me.
I'm simple, and I'm cool with that.
I'm also busy. If you walk in the front door of my house, what you can see is straightened up.
I do that to keep the visual clutter down, which, for me, reduces the stress of things appearing busy.
Behind closed doors, well, that's another story.
I was given a "tour" of this person's house by them when I was there in February. Everything in the house, including, yes, the closets, were totally organized.
So, how am I to feel from that?
I could never, ever bring them here because I couldn't give the same "tour" without spending a good long time straightening every little thing up.
Things aren't unclean, but everything isn't perfectly filed, boxed up, etc.
Oh, I'd love for it to be, but I'm not there. And I have no desire to get there tomorrow.
Again, there's no dialogue to understand where and why I feel that way. Nobody saying, "that's not as big of a deal that you think that it might be."
So I went four months without seeing the individual in person until two weeks ago.
I often get data files from race producers so I can prepare notes to include in my announcing.
I realized that she was going to be at a race that I was announcing in Katy.
I reached out to her via text.
Even though I have the phone number, I've never been given the option to call. In fact, when I was still friends with her on Facebook, there was once an e-card posted that talked about not answering phone calls - and to just text.
I had in the past, but conversations were very limited. They got shut down, by liking a text and not continuing any dialogue.
After the party in February, I had kind of walked away from things. Why?
1.) Another male was there. (There were many.) After there was a group picture taken of everyone at her party, he went to leave. Since there weren't a lot of people there that I regularly talk to - or even knew, I was having to fend my time for myself. I noticed that he leaned down to kiss her, but she turned it into a hug. That was really odd to me.
2.) Her soon to be ex-husband made a friend request on Facebook as I was standing on the patio outside of her house getting ready to leave. That really freaked me out!
The issue with point number one is that in texts with me she said that "three of us" went to New Orleans to run the Rock 'N' Roll Half Marathon and she mentioned one of the other two, by name. A female. She never mentioned his name.
I only saw later in pictures on her Facebook page that it was a male.
Ah, the same one that leaned down to kiss her.
I had originally received a Facebook invite to the party, but I ignored it for a few days because I couldn't quite ensure that I could make the logistics work with traveling that morning to Galveston to work a marathon.
I'd have to come all the way back to Spring to shower and then 65% of the way back south to attend the party.
However, I received a text from her with an image - almost like an invite card.
She wanted me to come, but why put me into that environment?
That troubled me and, in a way, still does to this day.
So back to two weeks ago.
I never saw her before the race, which I was amazed how she pulled that off because at some point she had to have gone by me to queue up to start the race.
Then again, I didn't see her this morning either, but honestly I wasn't looking very hard.
She and her daughter finished together. I announced the daughter's name first and then hers.
Sometime later, I was still announcing and she came up and got a picture and mentioned a word, "Amazing." I knew what that was about. Or I think I did.
But who took the picture? Her ex-husband. That was really creepy to me. Not him. He's a nice guy. I don't interact with him much though - and who in the world knows what he knows.
I get exes can still be friends, but it - and seeing post-race pictures that he went back out to run with her at some point - really pushed me over the edge to say, "It is time to move on."
I've told her that she's an amazing, smart, talented and accomplished woman, but you have to be open enough to be vulnerable and communicate.
I have. I did on her front porch that night.
It wasn't enough to say, "I never want to communicate with you again."
Because that was never said.
Maybe she'll read this.
Maybe she'll get it.
When do I get to deal with this again?
Oh, that would be Tuesday.
Both the man in item number one above and her ex-husband will be there running.
Otherwise, working the race that I did today was a complete and total joy.
As I said in my Facebook post, "Always appreciate all who make the effort to say Hi! even though I'm typically pretty busy."
That's very, very true.
Even today, they could have said, "Hey, I don't understand ...."
I would have said, "I'm sorry," and asked to get together to discuss things, but that didn't happen.