Yes, I just went ahead and deactivated the Twitter feed as I suggested that I might.
I had thrown some general, open-ended questions out there to maybe drive a little discussion. Nothing. The birds are still chirping.
I don't want to just be known for what interesting information I can come up and publish. I've actually felt that for a long time.
While I might be a very simple person, if people can't make an effort to relate on more than that then maybe there are some situations with particular people that need reconsideration.
I guess I just didn't recall signing up to be in a fishbowl, and, at the same time, I wasn't comfortable with people just lurking out there and me knowing who they are. Like I said, I normally didn't look to see who was following me, but the last couple of additions left me rattled a little bit.
I could have "bumped" them off, but that just starts all kinds of talk about me - which is something I don't want.
Even though my Facebook page and Twitter account is wide-open, if somebody is going to check it out without engaging me, don't friend or follow me. Please, that is.
It is all tempered, I believe, by a bad situation where it seemed that somebody was quietly and closely watching my status updates. Especially when I received a note that said, "I was just worried about you, and missed reading your posts on FB." Then, and in the end, they never really engaged much to a level of friendship beyond that.
And it isn't something that I want to invest energy into again and have similar results.
Maybe a flawed approach, but it is safer - emotionally - to find something - as opposed to somebody - to throw myself into then as opposed to trying to deal with people that can't or won't engage.
Tuesday, March 12, 2013
Monday, March 4, 2013
Facebook vs. Twitter; March 4, 2013
“Facebook is where you find the people you know. Twitter is where you find the people you should know.”
I heard this said – or something very similar – this past Saturday afternoon.
Or rather put, the latter may also be – as I read in an article where I found that quote above – “to follow people you find interesting or have the same interests as you”.
There was a time, under another handle (my original @walksports), that I used it to “anonymously” vent to respond to and deal with some hurts that I believed had been levied against me.
That was, of course, a major, major mistake.
Now I do much, much less of that, because the individuals who caused the hurt have gone away, but it still makes me curious why people choose to follow me there.
I guess the reason that I’m even writing about this is because somebody that I know in person – but not too well – started to follow me on Twitter Sunday evening (after being around them in person two consecutive days a little bit more than before), but did not send a friend request on Facebook (which is really OK).
And it was that same person, when speaking directly to somebody that I consider a friend, who referred to the quote above.
So is it that you can look inside somebody’s fishbowl on Twitter and not become emotionally attached, but with Facebook it is as if you’re addicted – hanging on their every movement?
Well, maybe not that involved, but you get the idea of the difference between the two.
I kind of know, and this is what the article states, pretty much everyone that is a Facebook friend, but I’d have to look and really see who was following me on Twitter. The only way I even know sometimes is if I go to the associated e-mail account to see who states that they are starting to follow me. That is actually how I discovered this individual.
I guess I feel like I’m auditioning to be a friend to this individual, which is a bit odd.
I hope I don’t scare them off.
Why? Because I’m actually a little bit more raw – and random – in Twitter. If I see a funny license plate, I’ll tweet it. Or a church sign with a funny or thought-provoking message.
My Facebook is just as open, though, as Twitter is. (In fact, some of my Facebook statuses flow right over to Twitter.) There might be 1 in 1,000 status updates, etc. that is hidden to “friends” or “friends of friends”.
In closing, I will say this about Twitter: I typically get more useful information from Twitter than I do Facebook these days, but it seems I follow much more on Twitter and therefore don’t get to everything that I want to see.
And the things that I post there are more flippant whereas I post with intention on Facebook.
I heard this said – or something very similar – this past Saturday afternoon.
Or rather put, the latter may also be – as I read in an article where I found that quote above – “to follow people you find interesting or have the same interests as you”.
There was a time, under another handle (my original @walksports), that I used it to “anonymously” vent to respond to and deal with some hurts that I believed had been levied against me.
That was, of course, a major, major mistake.
Now I do much, much less of that, because the individuals who caused the hurt have gone away, but it still makes me curious why people choose to follow me there.
I guess the reason that I’m even writing about this is because somebody that I know in person – but not too well – started to follow me on Twitter Sunday evening (after being around them in person two consecutive days a little bit more than before), but did not send a friend request on Facebook (which is really OK).
And it was that same person, when speaking directly to somebody that I consider a friend, who referred to the quote above.
So is it that you can look inside somebody’s fishbowl on Twitter and not become emotionally attached, but with Facebook it is as if you’re addicted – hanging on their every movement?
Well, maybe not that involved, but you get the idea of the difference between the two.
I kind of know, and this is what the article states, pretty much everyone that is a Facebook friend, but I’d have to look and really see who was following me on Twitter. The only way I even know sometimes is if I go to the associated e-mail account to see who states that they are starting to follow me. That is actually how I discovered this individual.
I guess I feel like I’m auditioning to be a friend to this individual, which is a bit odd.
I hope I don’t scare them off.
Why? Because I’m actually a little bit more raw – and random – in Twitter. If I see a funny license plate, I’ll tweet it. Or a church sign with a funny or thought-provoking message.
My Facebook is just as open, though, as Twitter is. (In fact, some of my Facebook statuses flow right over to Twitter.) There might be 1 in 1,000 status updates, etc. that is hidden to “friends” or “friends of friends”.
In closing, I will say this about Twitter: I typically get more useful information from Twitter than I do Facebook these days, but it seems I follow much more on Twitter and therefore don’t get to everything that I want to see.
And the things that I post there are more flippant whereas I post with intention on Facebook.
Sunday, February 17, 2013
Cautiously Excited Father; February 17, 2013
I can't begin to describe what an humbling feeling it is to see the incredible growth a beautiful young woman has had in her life.
I can certainly tell you that I've been the one that has been blessed -- and I'm the one that is supposed to be leading her.
I remember a time not too long ago -- just less than five years ago -- when Waverly shied away from singing the National Anthem.
This was in the middle of nowhere (figuratively, of course) in Groveton, Texas at a marathon and half marathon that numbered no more than 300 participants.
She had sang it once before in October 2007 at the Huntsville Half Marathon, when she was a sixth grader.
Since then, as many of you know, she has performed the Anthem countless time in crowds numbering five to six thousand and has done so flawlessly.
So I am just in awe - as her father - that she will put herself out there in front of a skilled evaluator and audition for one of Liberty University's Ministry Teams on Friday when I travel with her to for me to take a look at the campus in Virginia.
Even though I'm not looking too forward to August 14, 2013, the day I have to leave her there, I know in my heart - and I truly believe - that this is where God wants Waverly to be.
My prayer is that, regardless of the outcome, God will continue to show her exactly where she needs to be to accomplish His perfect will for her life.
Please keep her in your prayers that she settle on a song that she's comfortable with and that she enjoys singing -- and that she'll walk away from the audition with a positive experience to continue to learn and grow from.
I can certainly tell you that I've been the one that has been blessed -- and I'm the one that is supposed to be leading her.
I remember a time not too long ago -- just less than five years ago -- when Waverly shied away from singing the National Anthem.
This was in the middle of nowhere (figuratively, of course) in Groveton, Texas at a marathon and half marathon that numbered no more than 300 participants.
She had sang it once before in October 2007 at the Huntsville Half Marathon, when she was a sixth grader.
Since then, as many of you know, she has performed the Anthem countless time in crowds numbering five to six thousand and has done so flawlessly.
So I am just in awe - as her father - that she will put herself out there in front of a skilled evaluator and audition for one of Liberty University's Ministry Teams on Friday when I travel with her to for me to take a look at the campus in Virginia.
Even though I'm not looking too forward to August 14, 2013, the day I have to leave her there, I know in my heart - and I truly believe - that this is where God wants Waverly to be.
My prayer is that, regardless of the outcome, God will continue to show her exactly where she needs to be to accomplish His perfect will for her life.
Please keep her in your prayers that she settle on a song that she's comfortable with and that she enjoys singing -- and that she'll walk away from the audition with a positive experience to continue to learn and grow from.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
Spring, Texas; January 22, 2013
It has been awhile since I've been out here. Life has gotten in the way a little bit. So back to making an effort to reflect and challenge myself going forward.
Since the last time I checked in, I've turned a year older. 46. Can't be all that bad, right? Let's hope not. I don't feel it at all, and I'm thankful for that.
As I have mentioned before, this devotional from Tony Dungy, "Uncommon Life: Daily Challenge", is what I've been using to guide my writings and thought processes.
Today's heading was this: "Just say a simple, "Yes, I will," or "No, I won't." Anything beyond this is from the evil one." Matthew 5:37.
Dungy is talking about honesty in his book, but I read further down in my King James Version Bible to verse 44.
It says, "But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;"
That's tough to do, but sometimes it is the only way to combat those feelings of anger and disappointment overwhelm you.
In church this past Sunday, I continue to pray for somebody for what they have experienced in life and asked God to show His love to them.
So an interesting mental sidebar, but back to honesty.
I've struggled with this only in the areas of being fearful and when I think others won't fully understand my actions.
Dungy wrote, "Honesty is a component of a person's character that is remembered far longer than an individual's words, talents, or accomplishments. All those things can carry a person to a point, but ultimately, without honing that deep core of honest, they will all be for naught."
In the "Uncommon Key", Dungy added, "Being less than honest with others will permanently mark your character if you don't change."
I'll say that there have been a few people that again I didn't think at the moment in time would understand where I was in my life and why I was where I was in that instant that I was communicating with them. Therefore, I didn't tell the story as it was.
Yes, it was wrong of me. One I eventually told. The other I have distanced myself from - and it isn't anything that they've done wrong. They're a great person and one that I clearly don't measure up to.
This past Saturday, I had lunch with a friend who I think may have had a question in their mind about me personally. When they had asked me questions in the past, I had answered them truthfully, but very, very narrowly in such a way that they interpreted my life status as one thing because that is actually how I lived my life day to day.
However, the paperwork was something that was still actually different.
Situations in our lives allowed us to spend a little time together getting caught up and in an earlier e-mail communication, I had told them that I wanted to clear up any "grey areas".
I did. I sat across the table from them, looked them in the eye and told them the truth.
They're more than willing to ask me any question at any time in the future because I have nothing to hide from them, nor do I want to. I want this individual to trust me the way that they originally did.
As I do with others.
The end of Matthew 5 (verse 48) says, "Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect." That's the standard to strive for.
And when we fall short, God gives us another chance - if we choose to exercise it - to be honest with Him in seeking forgiveness for our sin.
Sunday, December 30, 2012
"The Long Snapper", by Jeffrey Marx
In the coming year, 2013, I've committed to read much more than what I have in the past.
And that takes time, which I generally tend to have. And, of course, I'll have even more once Waverly is off to college. So instead of waiting, I got the 2013 quest started a few days early.
I received a $25 gift card to Barnes & Noble for Christmas from my cousin and his wife and I set off to pick up two books. The first of which is Jeffrey Marx's "The Long Snapper".
The book is about Brian Kinchen, a 38-year-old long snapper who has been out of professional football for three years and is teaching seventh grade at Baton Rouge, Louisiana's Parkview Baptist. He gets a call from Scott Pioli, a friend who is the general manager of the New England Patriots.They want him to come and tryout after their regular long snapper is injured with two weeks left in the 2003 regular season.
However, he fears having to relive the disappointment of being rejected for a younger player as he had experienced his last couple of years as he had originally exited his long career in the National Football League (NFL).
Instead, the Patriots choose him among four who were brought in for a tryout and the book takes the reader game-by-game through the end of the regular season, the playoffs and all the way to the Super Bowl, which was played here in Houston.
It is a well-written, well-crafted and heartwarming story by Marx, who was given incredible access by Kinchen, his wife and former players and coaches.
As a Christian, it reminds me of Proverbs 3:5, "Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding."
In addition, it's a lesson that we should never give up hope on God.
For more on Brian Kinchen, who is now the head football coach of Ascension Christian High School in Gonzales, Louisiana, please visit www.thelongsnapper.com.
Wednesday, December 26, 2012
Spring, Texas; December 26, 2012
Waverly got me a desk calendar for Christmas from Tony Dungy titled "Quiet Strength: The Principles, Practices & Priorities of a Winning Life".
First of all, I'm proud that she not only paid attention enough to know that I had a devotional titled, "Uncommon Life", by Dungy, but that she also bought it with her own money from babysitting this past summer.
As you can imagine, I'm pretty proud of her.
Just after opening that gift, she made her Dad cry with a homemade 2013 calendar that was made up of shots from her Senior pictures - and a few select ones that she and her Mom or that I had taken.
So today's first entry from Dungy's daily "daybrightener" is this:
"We have to be careful that we don't let the pursuit of life's goals, no matter how important they seem, cause us to lose sight of our purpose."
That purpose, of course, for a Christian is to ensure that we win as many souls to Jesus Christ.
I've written on this blog earlier that with at least one individual, and perhaps more, that I may have lost that opportunity. Only God knows that for sure.
The only thing that I can do is to not make the same potentially eternal mistakes around the lives of others.
I would like to think that I have this - above - covered fairly well.
I was just talking with a friend of mine at the track earlier this evening that I don't have anything that would be considered a "life goal". I'm signed up for a long-distance running race, but if I don't complete I won't be completely devastated and think that my life is less than complete because I didn't.
To me, I said while running another friend later in the session, my number one desire is that Waverly is positioned as well as possible to lead as happy and as complete of a life as possible.
I pray for her as much as I can, but also I'm confident that she continually seeks God's will in her life on a regular basis. And I would like to think that I can see the evidence of that desire of her heart in how she lives her life.
She's a blessing to everyone around her, including those who despise me.
They have been known to recommend her to a race director for her to sing the National Anthem at their race.
But the bottom line is that our focus should be on eternity, which in our day-to-day life can be a challenge when we make choices that take us away from God's love for us.
Therefore, I'll continue to hope and pray that my "life's goals" are consistent with an approach that is eternal in nature.
First of all, I'm proud that she not only paid attention enough to know that I had a devotional titled, "Uncommon Life", by Dungy, but that she also bought it with her own money from babysitting this past summer.
As you can imagine, I'm pretty proud of her.
Just after opening that gift, she made her Dad cry with a homemade 2013 calendar that was made up of shots from her Senior pictures - and a few select ones that she and her Mom or that I had taken.
So today's first entry from Dungy's daily "daybrightener" is this:
"We have to be careful that we don't let the pursuit of life's goals, no matter how important they seem, cause us to lose sight of our purpose."
That purpose, of course, for a Christian is to ensure that we win as many souls to Jesus Christ.
I've written on this blog earlier that with at least one individual, and perhaps more, that I may have lost that opportunity. Only God knows that for sure.
The only thing that I can do is to not make the same potentially eternal mistakes around the lives of others.
I would like to think that I have this - above - covered fairly well.
I was just talking with a friend of mine at the track earlier this evening that I don't have anything that would be considered a "life goal". I'm signed up for a long-distance running race, but if I don't complete I won't be completely devastated and think that my life is less than complete because I didn't.
To me, I said while running another friend later in the session, my number one desire is that Waverly is positioned as well as possible to lead as happy and as complete of a life as possible.
I pray for her as much as I can, but also I'm confident that she continually seeks God's will in her life on a regular basis. And I would like to think that I can see the evidence of that desire of her heart in how she lives her life.
She's a blessing to everyone around her, including those who despise me.
They have been known to recommend her to a race director for her to sing the National Anthem at their race.
But the bottom line is that our focus should be on eternity, which in our day-to-day life can be a challenge when we make choices that take us away from God's love for us.
Therefore, I'll continue to hope and pray that my "life's goals" are consistent with an approach that is eternal in nature.
Sunday, December 9, 2012
Life At The End Of An IV Bag - College Station, TX; December 9, 2012
I finished my 47th marathon today - in 50 starts (Surfside, Odessa and Louisville, KY), but it didn't come without some drama afterward.
It was very humid today. In mile two, while running was Tracy Raborn, we saw a bank clock that said 77 degrees. And this was at 7:20 a.m. or so. I was very thankful today for overcast skies and cool winds.
I dispel a lot of fluid when I run a race and even though, at times, I carry a water bottle (like I did today), I can never seem to get enough to ward off cramping on a day like today. (And, no, I didn't bring my salt tablets, which I did use for Rocky Raccoon 100 this past February.)
I didn't start doing the "marathon math" - how many miles I have left times 16 minutes per mile and what will my finish time be - until mile 13 today, but I delayed putting it into action until mile 20.
I was at 3:54:59 through mile 20, which isn't too bad. (Four hours is 12 minutes per mile.)
So I purposedly walked a lot in the last six miles and tried to run where I could. One thing that has changed over the last year or so, in preparing for Rocky, is that I don't let the walking get me down and discouraged. Because I know that if I can finish the 100-miler, there's going to be times that I'm walking.
Therefore, I was singularly focused in putting another finish in the books, thankful to have the ability, resources, freedom and time to be able to run a marathon on short notice. I know that it isn't the wisest thing to do, but I ran this marathon today solely to be around a very positive group of people.
When I finish out of state, I think I've mentioned before that I finish with the "Hook 'Em Horns" sign, even though my favorite teams are usually whoever plays Texas, A&M and Notre Dame. Today, though, I thought that I would have a little fun by coming in with the University of Houston handsign and "gig" the Aggie fans about the Cougars hand-delivering their new coach for this football season, Kevin Sumlin.
I tossed my water bottle before entering the wide chute and was coming in strong when I felt like I was shot by a sniper -- cramping in the calves of both of my legs.
It was right before the reader mat and two members of the Scott and White Medical Team came rushing towards me. (I learned later that this had been a common scene all morning as they treated more than 150 runners.)
Once I was OK, I was determined to run across the line with the Eat 'Em Up, Coogs sign. Someone put a medal around my neck, the Medical Team got my shirt and off we went to find a bed.
They took me to a back set of beds behind the big white tent. A team of physicians and nurses worked to stretch my calves while they doused me with cold towels and brought me some Gatorade. This went on for about 10-15 minutes. When I thought that I might be able to get up, spasms shattered my left leg and left me screaming.
The next 20 minutes or so was an experience I hope that I don't have to relive. They brought over a massage therapist after I had rolled to my stomach. While she was desperately trying to loosen things up, it hurt very badly. I was screaming and writhing in pain.
Poor Tammy Ninke of Bill's Volte Endurance Training group had come over to check on me, while everyone was waiting on Mary Carter to finish her first marathon, and see how I was doing and she got to see me in my worst state. Hopefully I haven't scarred her for life. :)
After this had gone on for awhile, and they got my legs stable, it was determined that they should go in and get me some IV fluids. All I was trying to do was to avoid a trip to the hospital and a potential outpatient observation or inpatient stay.
The Scott & White Medical Team was incredible in their professionalism, kindness, compassion and genuine concern for my well-being. I think it is a challenge that we all face in our day-to-day lives to treat people that we've never come in contact with before better than anybody else.
They couldn't find a vein on my right arm and moved to my left to get it in place and get an IV started. They continued to place cold towels on my legs.
After about 10 minutes, the saline solution caused me to shiver - and literally chatter my teeth - and they brought towels out to get me warm. They had me drink as much as I was able to and one medical professional asked for me to deep breathe in as much as I could to get more oxygen into my bloodstream.
I was concerned that while this was going on that my legs remained tense and that the cycle of spasms would continue because I couldn't relax. So as they started a second IV, I started to move my legs as much as I could without triggering another attack.
During all of this I joked with a professional or two that my male ego was in the process of being shattered, but it was really that I felt so helpless in being in this situation.
I'm man enough to say that I cried a little bit.
The last time this had happened was last June in Kona. It was the first time that I had ever been in the medical tent after a race. It was at the beginning of our vacation and it scared me to have put Waverly into that situation while we were so far from home.
Thank goodness, I also had Steve and Paula Boone from Humble and Angela Tortorice from Dallas who were there to be able to support me too.
Today, without Waverly being there with me (as she was in church where she's supposed to be), I was so very appreciative of my best friend (besides Waverly), Bill Dwyer, and another great friend, Leanne Rosser, for coming in and checking on me to make sure that I was OK.
They went and got me food as my appetite started to come around and then waited to help to make sure that I would be able to get to my vehicle.
I'm very thankful for the people that I have in my life who are willing to give of themselves when there is nothing for them to necessarily get out of it.
It was very humid today. In mile two, while running was Tracy Raborn, we saw a bank clock that said 77 degrees. And this was at 7:20 a.m. or so. I was very thankful today for overcast skies and cool winds.
I dispel a lot of fluid when I run a race and even though, at times, I carry a water bottle (like I did today), I can never seem to get enough to ward off cramping on a day like today. (And, no, I didn't bring my salt tablets, which I did use for Rocky Raccoon 100 this past February.)
I didn't start doing the "marathon math" - how many miles I have left times 16 minutes per mile and what will my finish time be - until mile 13 today, but I delayed putting it into action until mile 20.
I was at 3:54:59 through mile 20, which isn't too bad. (Four hours is 12 minutes per mile.)
So I purposedly walked a lot in the last six miles and tried to run where I could. One thing that has changed over the last year or so, in preparing for Rocky, is that I don't let the walking get me down and discouraged. Because I know that if I can finish the 100-miler, there's going to be times that I'm walking.
Therefore, I was singularly focused in putting another finish in the books, thankful to have the ability, resources, freedom and time to be able to run a marathon on short notice. I know that it isn't the wisest thing to do, but I ran this marathon today solely to be around a very positive group of people.
When I finish out of state, I think I've mentioned before that I finish with the "Hook 'Em Horns" sign, even though my favorite teams are usually whoever plays Texas, A&M and Notre Dame. Today, though, I thought that I would have a little fun by coming in with the University of Houston handsign and "gig" the Aggie fans about the Cougars hand-delivering their new coach for this football season, Kevin Sumlin.
I tossed my water bottle before entering the wide chute and was coming in strong when I felt like I was shot by a sniper -- cramping in the calves of both of my legs.
It was right before the reader mat and two members of the Scott and White Medical Team came rushing towards me. (I learned later that this had been a common scene all morning as they treated more than 150 runners.)
Once I was OK, I was determined to run across the line with the Eat 'Em Up, Coogs sign. Someone put a medal around my neck, the Medical Team got my shirt and off we went to find a bed.
They took me to a back set of beds behind the big white tent. A team of physicians and nurses worked to stretch my calves while they doused me with cold towels and brought me some Gatorade. This went on for about 10-15 minutes. When I thought that I might be able to get up, spasms shattered my left leg and left me screaming.
The next 20 minutes or so was an experience I hope that I don't have to relive. They brought over a massage therapist after I had rolled to my stomach. While she was desperately trying to loosen things up, it hurt very badly. I was screaming and writhing in pain.
Poor Tammy Ninke of Bill's Volte Endurance Training group had come over to check on me, while everyone was waiting on Mary Carter to finish her first marathon, and see how I was doing and she got to see me in my worst state. Hopefully I haven't scarred her for life. :)
After this had gone on for awhile, and they got my legs stable, it was determined that they should go in and get me some IV fluids. All I was trying to do was to avoid a trip to the hospital and a potential outpatient observation or inpatient stay.
The Scott & White Medical Team was incredible in their professionalism, kindness, compassion and genuine concern for my well-being. I think it is a challenge that we all face in our day-to-day lives to treat people that we've never come in contact with before better than anybody else.
They couldn't find a vein on my right arm and moved to my left to get it in place and get an IV started. They continued to place cold towels on my legs.
After about 10 minutes, the saline solution caused me to shiver - and literally chatter my teeth - and they brought towels out to get me warm. They had me drink as much as I was able to and one medical professional asked for me to deep breathe in as much as I could to get more oxygen into my bloodstream.
I was concerned that while this was going on that my legs remained tense and that the cycle of spasms would continue because I couldn't relax. So as they started a second IV, I started to move my legs as much as I could without triggering another attack.
During all of this I joked with a professional or two that my male ego was in the process of being shattered, but it was really that I felt so helpless in being in this situation.
I'm man enough to say that I cried a little bit.
The last time this had happened was last June in Kona. It was the first time that I had ever been in the medical tent after a race. It was at the beginning of our vacation and it scared me to have put Waverly into that situation while we were so far from home.
Thank goodness, I also had Steve and Paula Boone from Humble and Angela Tortorice from Dallas who were there to be able to support me too.
Today, without Waverly being there with me (as she was in church where she's supposed to be), I was so very appreciative of my best friend (besides Waverly), Bill Dwyer, and another great friend, Leanne Rosser, for coming in and checking on me to make sure that I was OK.
They went and got me food as my appetite started to come around and then waited to help to make sure that I would be able to get to my vehicle.
I'm very thankful for the people that I have in my life who are willing to give of themselves when there is nothing for them to necessarily get out of it.
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